Gold Diggers, Nice Guys, and Black Women... OH MY

So, let’s discuss a topic, one that is sensitive to some, and taunting to others…lets discuss the following issues that have been under scrutiny.
Gold Diggers: let’s start with my favorite, the girl who uses her looks to get what she wants. She really doesn’t have much going for her at all (except for fake tits and a tan.) These are your vixens that weave it up, glue it up, and serve it up to the mini- banks known as rich men. The cliché here is that rich men actually seek these type of women (but then complain when they take half) It’s really an interesting mix, to date a super “hot” woman with not much substance and be with the overbearing alpha male who uses his financial power as power itself. These ladies have been under scrutiny because some of these rich men have taken it public (cough cough slim thug :@ ) who feel that women only date them for their money and want them to take care of them…
My Take: once again society has murdered off another societal role (or rather gender role) to question. My question is what the “EFF” is it… do you want to the woman to work, or not?? I’m kind proud of these women because they are staying in their place as far as what “society” deems the women to be: THE BETA HUMAN. Some call this the “Receiver”, where the male has always been considered the “Provider”. The problem is that both parties are in extremes. I definitely am not an advocate for manipulation and I don’t think we should succumb ourselves to being used, but let’s face it, these groups of people attract each other because of their “insecurities”. Which really this is a case of insecurity, because rich men feel the need to have the “trophy wife” on their arm to validate their status. These women seek out these rich men, because in order to keep up with their “appearance” they have to have money…. So it works for them. My only request is rich men stop complaining that women want you to just take care of them, and pay their bills (because you make yourself susceptible by doing such stupid actions, grown ups should be able to take care of themselves.) and Gold Diggers, stop digging for gold, before you end up alone at 45 with 4 kids (from different rich fathers) and realize that eventually your well will run dry. ( I mean you can tkeep getting divorces to keep up with your Benz ! ) until then… it’s a match made in heaven!

Nice Guys: these are those sweet guys, who will do just about anything… ANYTHING! That’s the issue with nice guys (really nice people in general) you become a target for mistreatment. I would know because I suffered from the nice girl syndrome for a while, until I realized I needed to shift my paradigm. Now let me be the first to say, mean people are horrible, and there is nothing endearing about them. (yet they attract everyone…)
My Take: the saying “Nice Guys Finish Last” is a resounding statement, and in many instances nice people do tend to finish last. But the ultimate joy is that they finish and they get what they want .(even if it takes a while) The truth is that there has to be a balance, which is the one thing that nice people can tend to lack. Because no one wants a “pushover”, anyone that can be easily manipulated, will be. The world is already messed up, so the goal is to not eradicate the “nice guys” because we need them. We just need you nice guys to be a little tougher and not be afraid to say “NO”, because I openly desire Nice Guys! Big time , such endearing quality!
Last but certainly not least … Black Women…
Oh my sisters who have been under such scrutiny for quite some time. It’s definitively an issue how as of late black women have been shoved under the bus more frequently. If it isn’t an issue about black men dating white women, black women having attitudes, and all black women are single… I will just add that BLACK PEOPLE as a whole are seriously wounded. We have allowed the media and society (and don’t forget slavery) to hate ourselves even more. I myself am a black woman, and have had quite a few bad experiences with black men, that I could sit here and bash, but at the end of the day, I have met awesome black men and women (as well as from other races), and I can honestly say black people are not that bad. But no matter what color you are, Black women really are strong creatures. I am not a single mother, nor having to work three jobs to put a roof over my head, and I don’t exactly live in the ghetto (however I do live in the hood, and that was by choice)BUT I know a lot of black women who do or are in those situations, and have had to put up with very “unfortunate” males (which there are more of them than there are fortunate ones). That’s neither here nor there, the one thing that I will speak against is the fact that the media or society is trying to paint BLACK PEOPLE as unable to attain healthy relationships. It’s unfortunate that when we meet people, we don’t get to read their life story which explains why many of us are they way we are.
My Take: For those black men or other races who feel that black women are nothing but fat, lazy women, with attitudes, I would say to you: 1. Turn off your damn t.v. and actually meet some cool black females. 2. I HAVE MET MANY WOMEN FROM OTHER RACES WITH HORRIBLE ATTITUDEs, either they are looking down at you or nagging you. 3. Although there are some overweight women in the black community, there are a lot of healthy sized ones as well, and to be honest there are fat people all over America (and I don’t use that loosely to offend anyone, I’m just saying obesity is a problem in the united states.) and to my beautiful black women, don’t fall into the hype, and understand we are facing adversities, and those successful black men are very few; however don’t focus on the fact that your single, or that black men don’t want you (cause I know a lot of brothers who love brown skin) just focus on being the best PERSON you can be. DON’T SETTLE, and when you do get a good black man… PLEASE DON’T FUCK IT UP, cause they come a penny a dozen lol!!! Don’t hate yourselves, because you’re already hated enough because of the color of skin, so love it even more…

And that’s all I have to say about that…
Peace
karyn